Lily Collins is breaking her silence about her most “toxic” relationship.
On Wednesday’s We Can Do Hard Things podcast, the Emily in Paris star opened up a few horrible-sounding relationship in her “early 20s.” She admitted:
“For me, my romantic toxic relationship was verbal and emotional abuse and being made to feel very small.”
“Small” was apparently a giant factor with him. She recalled the names he would name her, which have been reductive in additional methods than one:
“He would call me ‘Little Lily.’ You should be ‘Little Lily’ and he’d use awful words about me in terms of what I was wearing and would call me a whore and all these things.”
She stated the “belittling words” did precisely what they have been meant to — they left her “quite silent and comfortable in silence and feeling like I had to make myself small to feel super safe.”
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How did she make herself “small”? In one sense, fairly actually. She’s opened up about her battle with consuming problems up to now, and it feels like this emotional abuse pushed her deeper into it. She described how small animals react to predators:
“When prey felt threatened, they made themselves as small as possible. Possibly by not eating by making themselves look as least juicy and enticing as possible and that’s where they felt the safest.”
That is really heartbreaking.
Lily was left feeling “anxiety” and “panic” — feelings that also floor each on occasion, despite the fact that she’s now 33 years previous and fortunately married to filmmaker Charlie McDoeffectively. She defined:
“The situations are completely different 10 years ago to now… That panic is what I can still get triggered by. Even if I’m in the most healthy relationship, there can be a moment that happens throughout the day where history comes back like that. It’s like a millisecond, or shorter than a millisecond. And your gut reacts, your heart starts beating, and all of a sudden you’re taken back to that moment where they said that thing to you 10 years ago, but you’re not in that situation now and that’s the trigger and it’s f**king hard. It’s awful.”
We’re so glad issues are higher for Lily now. But like she says, these early relationship experiences can scar you for years to return.
Lily had just a few excessive profile relationships throughout her early 20s. She was linked to Taylor Lautner briefly after they starred in 2010’s Abduction. That would have been when she was about 20. But it didn’t final very lengthy — they reportedly break up earlier than the film even premiered!
In 2012, Lily dated Zac Efron for about three months. But it’s extremely unlikely she has any unhealthy emotions towards him; they have been pleasant sufficient to co-star collectively once more years later within the Ted Bundy film Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile in 2019.
Her subsequent relationship was truly “10 years ago.” She dated The Mortal Instruments: City of Bones co-star Jamie Campbell-Bower from July 2012 to August 2013. They apparently had a rocky relationship, breaking apart after which getting again collectively for a bit in 2015 earlier than splitting for good. In between she briefly dated Aussie actor Thomas Cocquerel in early 2014.
And the final relationship from her early 20s could be with Chris Evans. She and the Avengers star met on the Vanity Fair Oscars occasion and have been seen on a number of dates in 2015.
Now in fact, we’ve by no means heard something about abuse, verbal or in any other case, about any of those guys. We don’t know who Lily is speaking about right here, and he or she isn’t able to name him out by identify. But we’re glad she’s feeling sturdy sufficient to place the habits on blast no less than. Hopefully whoever was accountable sees the error of his methods… and the way that may have an effect on somebody for years to return.
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